If You Let Someone Know You Appreciate

When Desire For A Certain Person's Attention Becomes An "i Have To Have" Kind Of Grasping, Then Identity Gets Organized Around Needing That And It Becomes Very Solid And Sticky. That Causes Suffering Because We're Not Inhabiting The Fullness Of Who We Are, We're Fixated And Contracted On Life Being A Certain Way.

Even Going Through The Motions Is A Way Of Establishing A New Relationship With Our Inner Life That Is Caring And Tender, Versus One That Is Judging, Distancing Or Ignoring. This Is The Beginning Of Being Capable Of Intimacy With Others.

Discovering A Richer Quality Of Being-ness Means To Keep Surrendering And Letting Go Of Resistance.

We Can Find True Refuge Within Our Own Hearts And Minds-right Here, Right Now, In The Midst Of Our Moment-to-momen T Lives.

My First Book, 'radical Acceptance', Grew Out Of The Suffering Of Feeling Personally Deficient And Unworthy. Because Most Of Us Are So Quick To Turn Against Ourselves, The Teachings And Practices Of Radical Acceptance Continue As A Strong Current In 'true Refuge': Nurturing A Forgiving, Understanding Heart Is A Basic Step On The Path.