This, Perhaps, Goes To Show That Conditional

Let's Suppose Somebody Abused You Sexually. You Still Had A Choice, Though Not A Good One, About What To Tell Yourself About The Abuse.

There's No Evidence Whatsoever That Men Are More Rational Than Women Or That Men Are More Willing To Surrender Their Irrational Beliefs. Both Sexes Seem To Be Equally Irrational.

The Goal...is Not To Change Your Desires And Wishes But To Persuade You To Stop Demanding That You Absolutely Must Have What You Wish-from Yourself, From Others, And From The World. You Can By All Means Keep Your Wishes, Preferences, And Desires, But Unless You Prefer To Remain Needlessly Anxious, Not Your Grandiose Demands.

People Could Rationally Decide That Prolonged Relationships Take Up Too Much Time And Effort And That They'd Much Rather Do Other Kinds Of Things. But Most People Are Afraid Of Rejection.

Strong Feelings Are Fine; It's The Overreactions That Mess Us Up.