Don't Let Anyone Tell You What You

When I Was A Child And I Was Upset About Something, My Mother Was Not Capable Of Containing That Emotion, Of Letting Me Be Upset But Reassuring Me, Of Just Being With Me In A Calming Way. She Always Got In A Flap, So I Not Only Had My Own Baby Panics, Fears And Terrors To Deal With, But I Had To Cope With Hers, Too. Eventually I Taught Myself To Remain Calm When I Was Panicked, In Order Not To Upset Her. In A Way, She Had Managed To Put Me In Charge Of Her. At 18 Months Old, I Was Doing The Parenting.

Now Most People Do Not Want An Ordinary Life In Which They Do A Job Well, Earn The Respect Of Their Collaborators And Competitors, Bring Up A Family And Have Friends. That's Not Enough Any More, And I Think That Is Absolutely Tragic - And I'm Not Exaggerating - That People Feel Like A Decent, Ordinary, Fun Life Is No Longer Enough.

...when You Collaborate With Someone Else On Something Creative, You Get To Places That You Would Never Get To On Your Own. The Way An Idea Builds As It Careens Back And Forth Between Good Writers Is So Unpredictable. Sometimes It Depends On People Misunderstanding Each Other, And That's Why I Don't Think There's Any Such Thing As A Mistake In The Creative Process. You Never Know Where It Might Lead.

Ask Yourself, "when Does This Decision Have To Be Taken?" And Having Answered It, Defer The Decision Until Then, In Order To Give Yourself Maximum Pondering Time.

If I Can Get You To Laugh With Me, You Like Me Better, Which Makes You More Open To My Ideas. And If I Can Persuade You To Laugh At The Particular Point I Make, By Laughing At It You Acknowledge Its Truth.