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Babies Control And Bring Up Their Families As Much As They Are Controlled By Them; In Fact ... The Family Brings Up Baby By Being Brought Up By Him.

The Strengths A Young Person Finds In Adults At This Time-their Willingness To Let Him Experiment, Their Eagerness To Confirm Him At His Best, Their Consistency In Correcting His Excesses, And The Guidance They Give Him-will Codetermine Whether Or Not He Eventually Makes Order Out Of Necessary Inner Confusion And Applies Himself To The Correction Of Disordered Conditions. He Needs Freedom To Choose, But Not So Much Freedom That He Cannot, In Fact, Make A Choice.

The Sense Of Identity Provides The Ability To Experience One's Self As Something That Has Continuity And Sameness, And To Act Accordingly.

You See A Child Play, And It Is So Close To Seeing An Artist Paint, For In Play A Child Says Things Without Uttering A Word. You Can See How He Solves His Problems. You Can Also See What's Wrong. Young Children, Especially, Have Enormous Creativity, And Whatever's In Them Rises To The Surface In Free Play.

It's A Long Haul Bringing Up Our Children To Be Good; You Have To Keep Doing That — Bring Them Up — And That Means Bringing Things Up With Them: Asking, Telling, Sounding Them Out, Sounding Off Yourself — Finding, Through Experience, Your Own Words, Your Own Way Of Putting Them Together. You Have To Learn Where You Stand, And Make Sure Your Kids Learn [where You Stand], Understand Why, And Soon, You Hope, They'll Be Standing There Beside You, With You.