You're Told That You're In Your Head

We Often Marvel At How Introverted, Geeky, Kid 'blossom' Into Secure And Happy Adults. We Liken It To A Metamorphosis. However, Maybe It's Not The Children Who Change But Their Environments. As Adults They Get To Select The Careers, Spouses, And Social Circles That Suit Them. They Don't Have To Live In Whatever Culture They'er Plunked Into.

Psychologists Usually Offer Three Explanations For The Failure Of Group Brainstorming. The First Is Social Loafing: In A Group, Some Individuals Tend To Sit Back And Let Others Do The Work. The Second Is Production Blocking: Only One Person Can Talk Or Produce An Idea At Once, While The Other Group Members Are Forced To Sit Passively. And The Third Is Evaluation Apprehension, Meaning The Fear Of Looking Stupid In Front Of One's Peers.

The Pressure To Entertain, To Sell Ourselves, And Never To Be Visibly Anxious Keeps Ratcheting Up.

Whoever You Are, Bear In Mind That Appearance Is Not Reality. Some People Act Like Extroverts, But The Effort Costs Them Energy, Authenticity, And Even Physical Health. Others Seem Aloof Or Self-contained, But Their Inner Landscapes Are Rich And Full Of Drama. So The Next Time You See A Person With A Composed Face And A Soft Voice, Remember That Inside Her Mind She Might Be Solving An Equation, Composing A Sonnet, Designing A Hat. She Might, That Is, Be Deploying The Powers Of Quiet.

Many People Believe That Introversion Is About Being Antisocial, And That's Really A Misperception. Because Actually It's Just That Introverts Are Differently Social. So They Would Prefer To Have A Glass Of Wine With A Close Friend As Opposed To Going To A Loud Party Full Of Strangers.