You Will Know That Forgiveness Has Begun

Their Pain [the Injurer's Pain At Having Injured You] And Your Pain Create The Point And Counterpoint For The Rhythm Of Reconciliation. When The Beat Of Their Pain Is A Response To The Beat Of Yours, They Have Become Truthful In Their Feelings...they Have Moved A Step Closer To A Truthful Reunion.

Can You Stop Your Memory On A Dime, Put It In Reverse, And Spin It In Another Direction The Way You Can Reverse Direction On A Tape Recorder? We Cannot Forget On Command. So We Just Have To Let The Forgetting Happen As It Will; We Shouldn't Rush It, And We Certainly Should Not Doubt The Genuineness Of Our Forgiving If We Happen To Remember. The Really Important Thing Is That We Have The Power To Forgive What We Still Do Remember.

Human Sexuality Includes More Than Hormones, Organs, And Orgasms; It Runs Through The Psychic And Spiritual Ranges Of Our Lives. We Experience Our Sexuality On The Spiritual Level As A Yearning For Another Person. We Want To Reach Out And Stretch Ourselves Into The Depths Of Another. We Want To Bring The Other Person Into The Orbit Of Our Deepest Selves. We Want To Probe Into The Mystery Of The Other.

Forgiving Is, First Of All, A Way Of Helping Yourself To Get Free Of The Unfair Pain Somebody Caused You.

Forgiving Does Not Erase The Bitter Past. A Healed Memory Is Not A Deleted Memory. Instead, Forgiving What We Cannot Forget Creates A New Way To Remember. We Change The Memory Of Our Past Into A Hope For Our Future.