Whoever Influences The Child's Life Ought To

Most Advice On Child-rearing Is Sought In The Hope That It Will Confirm Our Prior Convictions. If The Parent Had Wished To Proceedin A Certain Way But Was Made Insecure By Opposing Opinions Of Neighbors, Friends, Or Relatives, Then It Gives Him Great Comfort To Find His Ideas Seconded By An Expert.

As Anna Freud Remarked, The Toddler Who Wanders Off Into Some Other Aisle, Feels Lost, And Screams Anxiously For His Mother Neversays "i Got Lost," But Accusingly Says "you Lost Me!" It Is A Rare Mother Who Agrees That She Lost Him! She Expects Her Child To Stay With Her; In Her Experience It Is The Child Who Has Lost Track Of The Mother, While In The Child's Experience It Is The Mother Who Has Lost Track Of Him. Each View Is Entirely Correct From The Perspective Of The Individual Who Holds It .

To Be A Good Enough Parent One Must Be Able To Feel Secure In One's Parenthood, And One's Relation To One's Child...the Security Of The Parent About Being A Parent Will Eventually Become The Source Of The Child's Feeling Secure About Himself.

If We Hope To Live Not Just From Moment To Moment, But In True Consciousness Of Our Existence, Then Our Greatest Need And Most Difficult Achievement Is To Find Meaning In Our Lives.

The Good Enough Mother, Owing To Her Deep Empathy With Her Infant, Reflects In Her Face His Feelings; This Is Why He Sees Himselfin Her Face As If In A Mirror And Finds Himself As He Sees Himself In Her. The Not Good Enough Mother Fails To Reflect The Infant's Feelings In Her Face Because She Is Too Preoccupied With Her Own Concerns, Such As Her Worries Over Whether She Is Doing Right By Her Child, Her Anxiety That She Might Fail Him.