When It's Too Difficult To Keep Swimming,

Boundaries Emerge From Deep Within. They Are Connected To Letting Go Of Guilt And Shame, And To Changing Our Beliefs About What We Deserve. As Our Thinking About This Becomes Clearer, So Will Our Boundaries. Boundaries Are Also Connected To A Higher Timing Than Our Own. We’ll Set A Limit When We’re Ready, And Not A Moment Before. So Will Others. There’s Something Magical About Reaching That Point Of Becoming Ready To Set A Limit. We Know We Mean What We Say; Others Take Us Seriously Too. Things Change, Not Because We’re Controlling Others, But Because We’ve Changed.

Be Patient. Relax And Trust. Let Go. Then, Let Go Some More.

It's Hard To Give Up The Self-esteem Connected To Being Codependent And Appearing 'right,' Which Is Probably A Survival Behavior Learned From Growing Up In A Crazy Family. It Feels Like You Will Actually Disappear.

I Know When To Say No And When To Say Yes. I Take Responsibility For My Choices. The Victim? She Went Somewhere Else. The Only One Who Can Truly Victimize Me Is Myself, And 99 Percent Of The Time I Choose To Do That No More. But I Need To Continue To Remember The Key Principles: Boundaries, Letting Go, Forgiveness After Feeling My Feelings—not Before, Self-expression, Loving Others But Loving Myself, Too.

...the Plan Will Happen In Spite Of Us, Not Because Of Us.