What Mom Cares About Most Is That

I Wanted To Show America A Different Kind Of Man. If There Was Someone Like Me When I Was Growing Up, My Whole Life Would Have Been Different.

I Don't Have The Luxury Of Doing Things Privately.

Deep Down, My Mom Had Long Suspected I Was Gay... Much Of Her Anger And Hurt Came From Her Sense Of Betrayal That She Was The Last To Be Told.

So When I Was About 13 Or 14, I Realized I Was Attracted To Women And Then Made The Assumption That I Was A Lesbian, And Didn't Realize That That Wasn't The Case. It Was The Fact That I Was A Man And A Heterosexual Man. The Issue Wasn't My Sexual Orientation, But Rather My Gender Identity.

Around 2001, I Started Analyzing Lesbians. I Started To Realize That Even Really Butch-acting Or -dressing Women Still Had A Strong Female Identity That I Never Had.