There's Zero Correlation Between Being The Best

Flow Is An Optimal State In Which You Feel Totally Engaged In An Activity...in A State Of Flow, You're Neither Bored Nor Anxious, And You Don't Question Your Own Adequacy. Hours Pass Without Your Noticing.

Schwartz's Research Suggests Something Important: We Can Stretch Our Personalities, But Only Up To A Point. Our Inborn Temperaments Influence Us, Regardless Of The Lives We Lead. A Sizeable Part Of Who We Are Is Ordained By Our Genes, By Our Brains, By Our Nervous Systems. And Yet The Elasticity That Schwartz Found In Some Of The High-reactive Teens Also Suggests The Converse: We Have Free Will And Can Use It To Shape Our Personalities.

We Often Marvel At How Introverted, Geeky, Kid 'blossom' Into Secure And Happy Adults. We Liken It To A Metamorphosis. However, Maybe It's Not The Children Who Change But Their Environments. As Adults They Get To Select The Careers, Spouses, And Social Circles That Suit Them. They Don't Have To Live In Whatever Culture They'er Plunked Into.

Though Shyness Per Se Was Unacceptable, Reserve Was A Mark Of Good Breeding.

Figure Out What You Are Meant To Contribute To The World And Make Sure You Contribute It