The Rule Is: We Cannot Really Forgive

The Problem With Revenge Is That It Never Evens The Score. It Ties Both The Injured And The Injurer To An Escalator Of Pain. Both Are Stuck On The Escalator As Long As Parity Is Demanded, And The Escalator Never Stops.

Gandhi Was Right: If We All Live By 'an Eye For An Eye' The Whole World Will Be Blind. The Only Way Out Is Forgiveness.

None Of Us Wants To Admit That We Hate Someone... When We Deny Our Hate We Detour Around The Crisis Of Forgiveness. We Suppress Our Spite, Make Adjustments, And Make Believe We Are Too Good To Be Hateful. But The Truth Is That We Do Not Dare To Risk Admitting The Hate We Feel Because We Do Not Dare To Risk Forgiving The Person We Hate.

Spoken Forgiveness, No Matter How Heartfelt, Works Best When We Do Not Demand The Response We Want. I Mean That When We Tell People We Forgive Them, We Must Leave Them Free To Respond To Our Good News However They Are Inclined. If The Response Is Not What We Hoped For, We Can Go Home And Enjoy Our Own Healing In Private.

The Only Way To Heal The Pain Which Will Not Heal Itself Is To Forgive The Person Who Hurt You. Forgiveness Heals The Memory's Vision. ... You Set A Prisoner Free, But You Discover The Real Prisoner Was Yourself.