The Phantasmagoria, The Actual Experience That We

You Get To Decide How You're Going To Look And What You're Going To Be When You Grow Up And When People Learned That My Parents Actually Had An Arranged Marriage People Thought That Was The Most Horrific Thing On Earth. I Mean How Could Anybody Allow Their Marriage Of All Things To Be Prescribed By Somebody Else?

And Guys Will Say Looks Matter, But They'll Also Say Things Like "well, She Should Be Smart And Kind." And You Know Those Are... So The Typical Responses And If You Give Them Just A Few Options, Like Five Or Six, Then They Will Rate Them On The Very Characteristics That They Said Were Really Important To Them.

In America We Tell Our Parents To Bring Their Child Home And Put Him Or Her In A Crib; As They Get Older, Children Sleep In They Own Room Not In Mom And Dad's Room. What Are We Training Them For? It's Independence, Because That's What Being Empowered Is All About.

Choosing Is A Creative Process, One Through Which We Construct Our Environment, Our Lives, Ourselves.

One Could Even Argue That We Have A Duty To Create And Pass On Stories About Choice Because Once A Person Knows Such Stories, They Can't Be Taken Away From Him. He May Lose His Possessions, His Home, His Loved Ones, But If He Holds On To A Story About Choice, He Retains The Ability To Practice Choice.