One Of The Characteristics Of Love Relationships

Taking On Responsibilities That Properly Belong To Someone Else Means Behaving Irresponsibly Toward Yourself. You Need To Know Where You End And Someone Else Begins. You Need To Understand Boundaries. You Need To Know What Is And Is Not Up To You, What Is And Is Not In Your Control, What Is And Is Not Your Responsibility.

Stressing The Practice Of Living Purposefully As Essential To Fully Realized Self-esteem Is Not Equivalent To Measuring An Individual's Worth By His Or Her External Achievements. We Admire Achievements-in Ourselves And Others-and It Is Natural And Appropriate For Us To Do So. But That Is Not The Same Thing As Saying That Our Achievements Are The Measure Or Grounds Of Our Self-esteem. The Root Of Our Self-esteem Is Not Our Achievements But Those Internally Generated Practices That, Among Other Things, Make It Possible For Us To Achieve.

Fear And Pain Should Be Treated As Signals Not To Close Our Eyes But To Open Them Wider.

We Tend To Feel Most Comfortable, "most At Home", With People Whose Self Esteem Level Resembles Our Own.

Integrity Means Congruence. Words And Behavior Match.