One Can Only Remember What Has Been

The Commandment To Refrain From Placing Blame On Our Parents, Deeply Imprinted In Us By Our Upbringing, Skillfully Performs The Function Of Hiding Essential Truths From Us.

Every Life And Every Childhood Is Filled With Frustrations; We Cannot Imagine It Otherwise, For Even The Best Mother Cannot Satisfy All Her Child's Wishes And Needs. It Is Not The Suffering Caused By Frustration, However, That Leads To Emotional Illness, But Rather The Fact That The Child Is Forbidden By The Parents To Experience And Articulate This Suffering, The Pain Felt At Being Wounded.

It Is Precisely Because A Child's Feelings Are So Strong That They Cannot Be Repressed Without Serious Consequences. The Stronger A Prisoner Is, The Thicker The Prison Walls Have To Be, Which Impede Or Completely Prevent Later Emotional Growth.

It Is Very Difficult For People To Believe The Simple Fact That Every Persecutor Was Once A Victim. Yet It Should Be Very Obvious That Someone Who Was Allowed To Feel Free And Strong From Childhood Does Not Have The Need To Humiliate Another Person.

Anyone Who Has Ever Been A Mother Or Father And Is At All Honest Knows From Experience How Difficult It Can Be For Parents To Accept Certain Aspects Of Their Children. It Is Especially Painful To Have To Admit This If We Really Love Our Child And Want To Respect His Or Her Individuality Yet Are Unable To Do So.