Most Things Worth Having Require Some Sacrifice,

There Are Three Musts That Hold Us Back: "i Must Do Well. You Must Treat Me Well. And The World Must Be Easy." And I Sometimes Think That As Long As We Keep The Second Must, Which Is Socially Learned, Then Some Screwballs 100 Years From Now Will Manufacture Atomic Bombs In Their Bathtub And Maybe Annihilate The Whole Human Race Because They Demand That The Rest Of The World Must Agree With Their Dogmas. When We Don't Agree, They May Zap Us.

Freudian Therapists Do A Lot Of Listening And Very Little Persuading, And That Was One Of The Reasons I Eventually Gave Up Being An Analyst. You Had To Be Too Passive And Not Speak Up, And You Couldn't Give Homework To Clients. While I Was Still An Analyst, I Wrote Several Articles Criticizing Psychoanalysis, But The Analysts Weren't Listening To My Objections. So I Finally Quit Psychoanalysis After Practicing It For Six Years.

Life Is Indeed Difficult, Partly Because Of The Real Difficulties We Must Overcome In Order To Survive, And Partly Because Of Our Own Innate Desire To Always Do Better, To Overcome New Challenges, To Self-actualize. Happiness Is Experienced Largely In Striving Towards A Goal, Not In Having Attained Things, Because Our Nature Is Always To Want To Go On To The Next Endeavor.

I'm One Of The Best-loved Psychologists In The United States, But I'm Also Probably The Most Hated One.

You Have Considerable Power To Construct Self-helping Thoughts, Feelings And Actions As Well As To Construct Self-defeating Behaviors. You Have The Ability, If You Use It, To Choose Healthy Instead Of Unhealthy Thinking, Feeling And Acting.