Kids Raised To Be Pampered And Spoiled

I Once Won A Second Prize In A History Concert. My Parents Came To The Ceremony. Somebody Else Had Won The Prize For Best All-around Student. Afterwards My Father Said To Me, 'never, Ever Disgrace Me Like That Again.' When I Tell My Western Friends, They Are Aghast. But I Adore My Father. It Didn't Knock My Self-esteem At All.

The Fact Is That Chinese Parents Can Do Things That Would Seem Unimaginable-even Legally Actionable-to Westerners. Chinese Mothers Can Say To Their Daughters, "hey Fatty-lose Some Weight." By Contrast, Western Parents Have To Tiptoe Around The Issue, Talking In Terms Of "health" And Never Ever Mentioning The F-word, And Their Kids Still End Up In Therapy For Eating Disorders And Negative Self Image.

Some Parents Let Their Kids Sleep At Other People's Houses, Where They Drink Alcohol, Watch Tv For Hours And God Knows What Else. But If You Say You Have To Get All A's And Practice The Violin For Two Hours, Then They Consider That Abusive. That Upsets Me.

The Chinese Model Calls For Giving Your Kids Very Little Choice - And I've Come To See That You Can Go Too Far With That. On The Other Hand, I Also Believe That Western Parents Sometimes Give Their Young Kids Too Much Choice.

Be Modest, Be Humble, Be Simple.make Sure You Come In First So That You Have Something To Be Humble About.