If You're In Love And There's That

My Characteristics [of Ideal Black Man.] Aren't As Specific. I'm More General. I'm More Like, I Have To Be Able To Talk To Him. You Know, We Have To Have Good Communications. He Has To Be Interested In The World. You Know What I Mean. Like Interested In Learning And Adventurous And Curious, 'cause That's What I Am. He Has To Be Passionate About Something. And It Would Be Nice If He Had A Job. It's Not Like He Has To Have An Mba.

I've Never Gotten Any Complaints About My Headscarf From A Man. You Can Be Sexy With A Head Wrap!

My Dad Is A Director/producer And My Mom Is A Dancer; She Performed With Alvin Ailey, But I Didn't Even Think About Becoming An Actress.

I Remember After I Dated This White Man, Nobody Said Anything But There Was A Couple Of Men In My Family That Joked After That. 'oh Yeah, We Had A Party When Y'all Broke Up. Hee Hee Hee.' And, You Know, They Laughed, And It Was Like Light And A Joke. But, You Know, That's Real. That Was Real And They Let Me Know. And, It's Almost Acceptable Within Our Culture To Be Prejudiced Toward Whites Because Of Our History. This Country Is Loaded With Racism .

Being Strong Can Be Also Feminine. I Don't Think Feminine Equals Being Weak. Being Strong Is Very Sexy.