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Very Few Alcoholics Get Into A Treatment Program Until They Are At The End Of The Rope, Often When They Feel Like They Are About To Lose Something That Is Important To Them, Namely A Wife Or Their Family. The Same Is True With Those Who Are Physically And Verbally Abusive.

Encouragement Requires Empathy And Seeing The World From Your Spouse's Perspective. We Must First Learn What Is Important To Our Spouse. Only Then Can We Give Encouragement. With Verbal Encouragement, We Are Trying To Communicate, "i Know. I Care. I Am With You. How Can I Help?" We Are Trying To Show That We Believe In Him And In His Abilities. We Are Giving Credit And Praise.

If I Walk In The House, And I Greet My Wife, And I Give Her A Hug, Kiss Her On The Cheek, And I Say To Her, "honey, How'd Your Day Go," And I Listed To How Her Day Went. If I Say, "is There Anything I Can Do To Help You," And She Tells Me, "honey, If You Could Peel The Potatoes," Or Whatever, I Have Influenced My Wife In A Very Positive Way.

Don't Be A Victim Of The Urgent. In The Long Run, Much Of What Seems So Pressing Right Now Won't Even Matter. What You Do With Your Children Will Matter Forever.

The One Who Chooses To Love Will Find Appropriate Ways To Express That Decision Everyday.