Freedom Does Not Come Automatically; It Is

Tenderness Emerges From The Fact That The Two Persons, Longing, As All Individuals Do, To Overcome The Separateness And Isolation To Which We Are All Heir Because We Are Individuals, Can Participate In A Relationship That, For The Moment, Is Not Of Two Isolated Selves But A Union

Courage Is The Capacity To Meet The Anxiety Which Arises As One Achieves Freedom. It Is The Willingness To Differentiate, To Move From The Protecting Realms Of Parental Dependence To New Levels Of Freedom And Integration.

The Acorn Becomes An Oak By Means Of Automatic Growth; No Commitment Is Necessary. The Kitten Similarly Becomes A Cat On The Basis Of Instinct. Nature And Being Are Identical In Creatures Like Them. But A Man Or Woman Becomes Fully Human Only By His Or Her Choices And His Or Her Commitment To Them. People Attain Worth And Dignity By The Multitude Of Decisions They Make From Day By Day. These Decisions Require Courage.

Vanity And Narcissism — The Compulsive Need To Be Admired And Praised — Undermine One's Courage, For One Then Fights On Someone Else's Conviction Rather Than One's Own.

Many People Suffer From The Fear Of Finding Oneself Alone, And So They Don't Find Themselves At All.