Discipline Is ... Life-inhibiting, Is At The

Genuine Forgiveness Does Not Deny Anger But Faces It Head-on.

In The Short Term, Corporal Punishment May Produce Obedience. But It Is A Fact Documented By Research That In The Long Term The Results Are Inability To Learn, Violence And Rage, Bullying, Cruelty, Inability To Feel Another's Pain, Especially That Of One's Own Children, Even Drug Addiction And Suicide, Unless There Are Enlightened Or At Least Helping Witnesses On Hand To Prevent That Development.

Depression Leads Him Close To His Wounds, But Only The Mourning For What He Has Missed, Missed At The Crucial Time, Can Lead To Real Healing.

For Some Years Now, There Has Been Proof That The Devastating Effects Of The Traumatization Of Children Take Their Inevitable Tollon Society--a Fact That We Are Still Forbidden To Recognize. This Knowledge Concerns Every Single One Of Us, And--if Disseminated Widely Enough--should Lead To Fundamental Changes In Society; Above All, To A Halt In The Blind Escalation Of Violence.

The Attempt To Be An Ideal Parent, That Is, To Behave Correctly Toward The Child, To Raise Her Correctly, Not To Give To Little Ortoo Much, Is In Essence An Attempt To Be The Ideal Child--well Behaved And Dutiful--of One's Own Parents. But As A Result Of These Efforts The Needs Of The Child Go Unnoticed. I Cannot Listen To My Child With Empathy If I Am Inwardly Preoccupied With Being A Good Mother; I Cannot Be Open To What She Is Telling Me.