Conflicts Are Not A Sign You've Married

In A Difficult Marriage, Both Of Us Have Failed Each Other. Even Though One May Be The Major Problem,you Also Have Failed Often In The Way You Have Responded To Them, The Way You Have Treated Them, In The Way You Have Handled Your Hurt And Your Pain.

When People Respond Too Quickly, They Often Respond To The Wrong Issue. Listening Helps Us Focus On The Heart Of The Conflict. When We Listen, Understand, And Respect Each Other's Ideas, We Can Then Find A Solution In Which Both Of Us Are Winners.

We Cannot Erase The Past, But We Can Accept It As History.

The Getting Out Part [of Advise] May Well Be True. Because If You Have Tried The Tender Love Thing... Typically The Abuser Is Not Going To Change Until They Are Pushed In A Corner.

We Are Trained To Analyze Problems And Create Solutions. We Forget That Marriage Is A Relationship, Not A Project To Be Completed Or A Problem To Solve.