By Regarding Ourselves With Kindness, We Begin

Stopping The Endless Pursuit Of Getting Somewhere Else Is The Perhaps Most Beautiful Offering We Can Make To Our Spirit.

When I Watch That Attachment Happening, I See The Beliefs That I Have Around It. If Somebody's Not Paying Attention To Me In A Certain Way, In My Mind, It Means They Don't Love Me Or They Don't Respect Me. Bringing Awareness To The Beliefs That Are Underneath The Attachment And Bringing Awareness To The Way My Body And Heart Are Tightening, Helps Me Wake Up And Re-inhabit A Larger Space Of Being. Holding On And Pushing Away Might Be Going On But I'm Freer To Respond In A Healthy Way.

As I Noticed Feelings And Thoughts Appear And Disappear, It Became Increasingly Clear That They Were Just Coming And Going On Their Own. . . . There Was No Sense Of A Self Owning Them.

I Think It's Possible To Have Experiences Of Love Without Attachment, But I Think Part Of Our Conditioning Is To Grasp At Times, Especially When There Are Unmet Needs. It's Part Of Our Nervous System To Hold On To Where We Think Those Needs Will Be Met.

When Desire For A Certain Person's Attention Becomes An "i Have To Have" Kind Of Grasping, Then Identity Gets Organized Around Needing That And It Becomes Very Solid And Sticky. That Causes Suffering Because We're Not Inhabiting The Fullness Of Who We Are, We're Fixated And Contracted On Life Being A Certain Way.