By Operating On The Principle Of Human

Growth Demands A Temporary Surrender Of Security. It May Mean A Giving Up Of Familiar But Limiting Patterns, Safe But Unrewarding Work, Values No Longer Believed In, Relationships That Have Lost Their Meaning. As Dostoevsky Put It, "taking A New Step, Uttering A New Word, Is What People Fear Most." The Real Fear Should Be Of The Opposite Course.

The Fundamental Steps Of Expansion That Will Open A Person, Over Time, To The Full Flowering Of His Or Her Individuality Are The Same For Both Genders. But Men And Women Are Rarely In The Same Place Struggling With The Same Questions At The Same Age.

The Delights Of Self-discovery Are Always Available.

A Restless Vitality Wells Up As We Approach 30.

The Work Of Adult Life Is Not Easy. As In Childhood, Each Step Presents Not Only New Tasks Of Development But Requires A Letting Go Of The Techniques That Worked Before. With Each Passage Some Magic Must Be Given Up, Some Cherished Illusion Of Safety And Comfortably Familiar Sense Of Self Must Be Cast Off, To Allow For The Greater Expansion Of Our Distinctiveness.