By Nature, Most People Are Controlled By

We Cannot Erase The Past, But We Can Accept It As History.

I Wrote This Book [ Desperate Marriages] Because Of My Own Marriage. My Wife And I Struggled Greatly In The Early Years Of Marriage. In Spite Of The Fact That We Were Christians Before We Got Married, We Prayed About Getting Married, We Believed It Was God's Will For Us To Get Married, And We Still Had Great Struggles.

The Reality Is, If You Go To The Library And Read Biographies, Thousands Of People Have Changed, Radically Changed. St. Augustine Was One Of Them. He Lived A Terrible A Life For The First 33 Years, And Then He Radically Changed.

I Think The Tingles Are Important. They Are Real, And I Am In Favor Of Their Survival. But They Are Not The Basis For A Satisfactory Marriage. I Am Not Suggesting That On Should Marry Without The Tingles. Those Warm, Excited Feelings, The Chill Bumps, That Sense Of Acceptance, The Excitement Of The Touch That Make Up The Tingles Serve As The Cherry On Top Of The Sundae. But You Cannot Have A Sundae With Only The Cherry.

Life's Deepest Meaning Is Not Found In Accomplishments , But In Relationships