And The Question Is, Which One Is

Music And Time Have Such An Interesting Relationship. Music Makes Time Fall Away Like Almost Nothing Else. You Hear A Song From Another Moment Of Your Life And It Really Is Like You're Still There. That's Why The Music Of Our Youth Ends Up Being Particularly Powerful. The Coming Of Age Music That You Grab A Hold Of As The Symbol Or The Expression Of Your Independence And Hopes For The Future And Anger And Rebellion Or Whatever It Is You're Feeling Is So Powerful For The Rest Of Your Life When You Hear It.

Some Mornings... I Sit At The Kitchen Table Shaking Salt Into The Hairs On My Arm, And A Feeling Shoves Up In Me: It's Finished. Everything Went Past Without Me.

It's Turning Out To Be A Bad Day, A Day When The Sun Feels Like Teeth.

I Loved Every Minute Of My Childhood - Sunbathing On The Fire Escape, Digging For Buried Treasure In The Back Yard, Pulling Alewives Out Of The Sand... Then It Was All Taken Away From Me. I Came Back Every Summer To Visit My Father Until I Was 18, But I Was Always The Outsider.

I Don't Think That All Girls Seek The Influence Of Older Men, But I Think Girls Whose Fathers Are Absent Or Recessed From Their Lives Often Do. And Honestly, When I Was Growing Up, Fathers Were Generally Pretty Absent From Their Children's Lives. We Didn't See A Lot Of Them. That May Be Something That Has Genuinely Changed For The Better In Our Culture: Men Are More Present For Their Children Now That More Women Are Working.